... over their finances, their love life, their health or their job. Our culture, based around ideas such as material success, competitiveness and money looks upon the idea of powerlessness as a failing. The poor dying drunk on a park bench isn't treated with the sympathy he might be due, but often with contempt or scorn, and why? Because his powerlessness over his addiction is visible to all but him. This attitude towards accepting powerlessness keeps many locked into their disease until death ends their torment, it seems to be almost unbearably painful for an alcoholic to admit he or she has a ... are in a bar drinking, or buying booze or drugs on your way home, you are powerless. You have no defence against the first drink or drug, your good intentions don't count for anything, and anyone in this situation who tries to rely on willpower is fooling themselves. Secondly, powerlessness manifests itself when the addict or drinker tries to limit themselves to a few doses of their drug of choice, but their resolve crumbles at the first drink or hit, the body must have more. The results of a drinking or drugs binge and the chaos it create are yet ...
Tags: Addiction | recovery | accepting powerlessness | | first drink | powerlessness manifests |

... conveyed so that your actions really reflect your intent. Recognizing that you can do something to make sure your in-law perceives you more accurately give you more power, which in turn can give you hope of changing things in this relationship. So, if you are experiencing this sense of powerlessness, maybe...just maybe you are too focused on your own painful feelings and are not aware your mother-in-law or daughter-in-law is not experiencing your actions in the way you are intending. And by changing your focus toward how you can help them perceive you more accurately ... the wrong thing. Daughters-in-law, on the other hand, feel that their mother-in-law dismisses them; they have no voice in the "family," and that they are often seen and treated like one of the children (albeit adult child, but a child none the less). This sense of powerlessness can be overwhelming to say the least. And it feeds on itself. The more you talk about "my in-law did this or my in-law did that;" or, "I can't believe she just said that!" Or, "Did you see the way she treated me?" the more powerless you ...
Tags: mother in law | daugter in law | powerlessness | in law relationship | empower | perception |

... theme around the world, just notice what you are surrounded by: the power of money, the power of personality, political power, the power of religion, the power of the internet, firepower, and so much more. Our obsession with power may be simply a symptom of our sense of our own powerlessness. How many times have you been frustrated by trying to resolve a problem by making a call and getting voice-mail instead of a live human being. We don't feel powerful enough to fight the corporation, the bureaucracy, the system or some other entity lurking within our psyches. In ...
Tags: subtle influence | butterfly power | positive butterfly power | powerlessness | power in society |

... victim and in doing so, feel more empowered. It is a reaction rising from fear. They do not realize that any action taken from a place of fear (without coming mentally into a space of freedom) will only produce physical results coherent with powerlessness, such as prison. The victim however, has stayed in the state of fear and powerlessness. But still, the victim and perpetrator share the exact same energetic vibration. Another part of the jail system that is not working is that people are being put in jail for drug possession. More often than not, the drug dealers aren't the ... perpetrator. We hold victims in a piteous light and perpetrators in a condemned one, which is as inaccurate as it can get. On an energetic level, both the perpetrator and the victim have the identical vibration of powerlessness. It is hard for people to grasp the concept that anger and revenge is actually a much healthier state for a person to be in than powerlessness and grief. The difference between a victim and a perpetrator is that the perpetrator has tried to move closer to wellness by physically acting out in an attempt to no longer feel powerless by committing a crime ...
Tags: justice system | jail | prison | crime | criminal | inmate |

... for a moment. Parents vary when it comes to how they react to eating disorder behavior. Some experience frustration predominantly; often because they are trying to apply logic when the child is not able to be logical. The feelings of powerlessness and helplessness can also cause frustration and anger. Other parents feel more anxiety and fear due to the experience of powerlessness or helplessness. The fear may be expressed in sadness, anger or pleading behaviors. Expressing anger can help release the anxiety parents feel. The problem is these emotions expressed out loud in times of stress are not productive for you or ...
Tags: eating disorder | eating disorders | anorexic | anorexia | eating | teenage eating |

... journal Pain, acceptance was found to contribute to less attention to pain, more engagement with daily activities, higher motivation to complete activities and a better effectiveness to perform daily activities. In twelve step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Gambling Anonymous, etc. the first step is an acceptance of one's powerlessness over the targeted malady. The cornerstone of a twelve step program is declaring one's helplessness over the very thing they have been fighting. It seems to me that acceptance, as the first step of pain management, would be important in that it is a statement of helplessness over the ... , would be important in that it is a statement of helplessness over the reality of pain and it's continuance in one's life. It is the acceptance of the probability of pain that allows a person to focus on non-pain aspects of life. Declaring one's helplessness or powerlessness to the pain does not mean that one has no alternatives, on the contrary, the research indicates that it is empowering. Denying the constancy of pain (i.e., pushing beyond one's limit; trying to out work or outlast the pain; refusing to nurture the hurt) takes time and energy ...
Tags: pain management | drug free | pain relief | relaxation | pain recovery | Diabetic neuropathy |

... time to take a deep look at your beliefs and acknowledge that you are the creator of them all and therefore can change them by releasing the old belief that the source is found on the outside of you. This belief no longer serves you. Somewhere inside, you are harboring powerlessness, frustration, anger, and loss of hope and these pure emotions want to move through you but they are being mixed up with all the voices coming from your mind and the outer world (thanks to our historical denial of half our emotions and reluctance to experience the other half), and ... problems. How can I develop courage to feel all my feelings and create new thought processes that are going to allow me to make new choices that produce a new relationship with my energy and my life?" Let this kind of proactive question be your guide. Use the feelings of powerlessness, frustration, anger, and loss of hope to fuel your intention to create the life you want even though you don't know how you're going create it. This takes courage and independence but you have these things within you. You just need to cultivate them. What will also help ...
Tags: divine love | dark emotions | collective consciousness | transmute energy | dark side | compassion |

... your life, society or whatever has messed you up - you are a victim. To choose to place your attention on that which is uplifting and expansive is a step into adulthood, responsibility and self autonomy - in other words growing up. Depression is always a state ruled over by childishness, victimisation, powerlessness and a lack of responsibility. We may fall into depression following trauma, abuse, loss and bereavement, but ultimately, depression and anxiety are caused by the pain of becoming separated, isolated and disconnected from the whole of life. No one truly wishes to be alone, isolated and separate, but we are ... What are Depression and Anxiety? And what causes them? Volumes could and have been written about this and a detailed elucidation is beyond the scope of this brief introductory article. It is clear that depression is a state of powerlessness, hopelessness and desperation, a state in which one often feels dread at facing another day and generally feels unable to cope with life with any degree of composure or harmony. Depression and anxiety are a state of isolation, separation and disconnection from oneself, others and life in general. A person ...
Tags: depression | anxiety | depression treatment | anxiety treatment | causes of depression | treating depression |

... our dreams. As we age, however, the concept of our teeth falling out takes on a whole new meaning, of possible dental work and expenses, of having to get dentures and how losing our teeth would affect our livelihood. it is directly related to the inevitability of ageing and our powerlessness in the face of this truth. The possibility of losing such an integral part of our lives is fraught with anxiety. Not only do they allow us to eat, but they are also linked to feelings of attractiveness. How many times have you heard somebody say, "Oh she has really ... top 10 most universal dream themes. Whether you clench your teeth so hard that it makes your teeth loose, whether it is a single wobbly tooth or all your teeth crumbling and decaying of their own accord, whatever way your teeth depart there is always a sense of helplessness and powerlessness associated with the loss of one of the most important features of our attractiveness. Remember back when you were a child and you had a loose tooth? And the impulse to wiggle it was so great you just couldn't leave it alone? It was almost exciting to lose a ...
Tags: dreams about teeth falling out | teeth dreams | dream themes | common dream | teeth crumbling | teeth loose |

... , Rejection, Acceptance, Hope Everyone goes through these stages although the speed and/or depth varies. Very often people will also move back along the stages numerous times as they process what it means for them. Shock, anger and rejection of the news i.e. denial, spring from a feeling of powerlessness and a loss of control. Acceptance and hope come from the eventual realisation that they have some choice. Change may be inevitable, how you react and deal with it is within your control. So, what can be done to support and help manage the challenge of change? Recognising the phases ...
Tags: resist change | change journey key change questions | challenge to opportunity |

Have you ever tried to control how often you would see someone? Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive or painful for you? Do you feel that you don't want people to know about your romantic activities? Do you hide these activities from family, co-workers and friends? Do you experience a 'high' from romance or do you 'crash'? Do you make rules for yourself concerning your romantic activities that you find you cannot follow? Do you believe that a relationship will make your life bearable? Do you find you have a pattern or history of repeating bad relationships? Do you find yourself in a relationship that you ...
Tags: change me | emotional dependency | depression | love addiction | emotional powerlessness | |

... people, and their loss would probably last for another generation. A reputation for dirty politics is hard to overcome. The savaging of people, with the repeated spurious arguments for policy positions, was Senator Kennedy's America and the Democrat's America, but is was not Joe Citizen's America! The powerlessness Joe felt to change it remained, however, and his cynicism continued to increase. The liberal left's disgusting tactics reached new heights when President George H. W. Bush nominated Clarence Thomas to the Supreme Court. All gloves were removed and it was truly bare-knuckle politics as Thomas had to ...
Tags: how the tea party began | tea party | political system | politics | political victories |

... at the end of the activity, they were told to stop interrupting the building process after ten minutes so that the teams could successfully complete their merry-go-rounds The impact of this activity was much greater than a lecture could have. The rule writers experienced the frustration, anger, and powerlessness that small businesses experienced when they were regulated right and left by different departments in the same state agency, sometimes with conflicting expectations. 4. Incorporate a case study. Instead of telling the participants the theory and steps involved in a process, let them see firsthand what it looks like when ...
Tags: boring topic | bring topic to life | make dry topic interesting | make technical topic interesting |

... your partner has to say. Be honest, direct and focus on the real issue. If you enter a conversation insecure about conveying the real issue to your partner, you most likely will not make your point, but instead create an argument in which both partners feel powerless. The feeling of powerlessness leads to defensive behavior, which leads to arguments instead of resolution. Communicate deeply not just about conflict but about other things as well. True partnership must come with understanding. The greatest gift you can give your partner is to reveal yourself. Reveal things to your partner such as your dreams ...
Tags: marriage | divorce | wedding | relationship | spouse | partener |

... physically and emotionally. PTSD Living in a long-term helpless situation-such as children who are physically and sexually abused or who see one of their parents or siblings being harmed in this way-has long-term effects that stay in our bodies and nervous systems. That feeling of horror, powerlessness and helplessness is always there, either on the surface or underneath. That's also true of one-time events, such as the natural disasters or the kinds of horrible experiences I mentioned above. This is what's called PTSD, or Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. Whenever something happens that has even ...
Tags: EFT core issue | emotional pain | PTSD | anger | childhood sexual abuse | childhood physical abuse |

... our spiritual needs, on doctors and conventional medicine for our health needs, on the government to provide for and take care of us after retirement (or before), etc. This attitude has led us to believe we aren't in control of our lives or our destiny. This fosters feelings of powerlessness that naturally leads to depression. Now that you know more about what is causing the number of depressed people to increase so rapidly, what can be done to counteract these conditions? Are there solutions? Gwynne Curry, who suffered with depression for 30+ years, reveals the proven method she personally used ...
Tags: increasing number | rapidly increasing number | rapidly increasing | | depression | cure depression |

... children in a proper environment. The US government is more than willing to help anyone who chooses to stand on their own feet regardless of being single parenthood. So take action now and know what grants are available in the state as soon as possible. One should not settle for powerlessness and accept the challenge of being a single mother. Good luck!
Tags: single mother | single mothers | single mother grants | mother grants | grants possible | single parent |

... off negative feelings through the sense of power that men feel when they are in "the erotic haze." But such attempts are never fully successful. The underlying assault on self always threatens to break through. Underneath the high of sexual acting out are deep feelings of inferiority and shame and powerlessness. Quite a number of theorists have written about the use of grandiosity to ward off shame. This flight from shame into grandiosity lies at the heart of sex addiction. The excitement of sex, the "erotic haze", the orgasm, the identification with "perfect" men in internet pornography -- lifts the man out ...
Tags: hidden depression in men | sex lifts men from depression | sex addiction |

... Find Your Stability Once you have seen the images of the tsunami, even if you stop watching them, the images can repeat themselves in your mind and each time they do, they can have the effect of uprooting you energetically. If these images persist, you can feel a combination of powerlessness, fear, and dread. One antidote to this feeling of overwhelming anxiety is to establish a more stable inner root. By doing this you do not erase the images but you become more stable and more able to deal with the world you are now living in. The following inner alignment ...
Tags: japan tsunami | meditation | crisis meditation | healing meditation | energy healing | spiritual healing |

... to saints of one sort or another, the culture could at least offer itself the consolations of philosophy and the philosophers who provide it, or perhaps inflict upon its the tonic exhortations of religious and moral scolds, those who stand apart with authority to make it clear that our general powerlessness to create, change, or heal is a consequence of our much deeper, even more significant failings. Strangely enough, by telling us about our shortcomings and our sinful, fallen natures, the religious judgers have always served to provide us some hope-hope that maybe we might find a way to reform ...
Tags: devotional patterning | survival patterning | conscious choice | NLP | Neuro | Linguistic |