... no basis in sound logical reality, generally, and when applied to the human condition specifically and universally. A human condition that is not capable of perfection. A human condition that could benefit us all if it, as a whole, was more accepting of, respecting of, and compassionate about difference. A.J. Mahari, March 29, 2011
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... BPD in your life won't even begin what is an often lengthy process of recovery then you have decisions that you need to make. Be kind and gentle with and to yourself as you take the journey of discovering what that means for you in your own life. © A.J. Mahari - All rights reserved.
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... not a lack of empathy make. That makes for difference. More difference that is not understood, not tolerated and that is pathologized by the "powers that be" who decide how it is that we are all "supposed" to relate to one another. Small box that, don't you think?  © A.J. Mahari - All rights reserved.
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... parents, secondly to society and equally to each adult diagnosed and left to fend for themselves, with Asperger's, in adulthood. We need bridges of understanding to and from each other. We do not need to be the same. We are all okay as we are, differences and all. © A.J. Mahari - All rights reserved. • Tantalus - (Greek mythology) a wicked king and son of Zeus; condemned in Hades to stand in water that receded when he tried to drink and beneath fruit that receded when he reached for it. (Source: www.dictionary.com )
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... authentic life philosophy is the pathway to the kind of lasting adaptation and change that will give re-birth to your potential, passion, purpose, and provide you with the understanding and insight to make new choices that will help you move forward in your life and achieve your goals. © A.J. Mahari
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These rigid thought patterns actually trap people in the active throes of Borderline Personality Disorder until and unless they get professional help to begin to learn how to think beyond the distorted and constricted magical thinking of a primitive concept of "self" and "other". The all-or-nothing, black-and-white, cognitively distorted thoughts that are a hallmark of Borderline Personality Disorder begin in early childhood and are compounded over time resulting in people with BPD, in adulthood, being triggered back to past unresolved psychological woundedness that has its center in what I refer to as the core wound of abandonment. Rigid thinking, in people who go on to be diagnosed with ...
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... balance. Toxic love is abusive and is about control, not healthy love. It is painful. It can become addictive. It erodes the self, of both the non-personality-disordered and to whatever degree, if at all, the personality disordered have an intact self, those with personality disorders as well. © A.J. Mahari
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Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual relationships. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central component of emotional mastery, internal change, in the here-and-now is actually more important than what has happened in your past. Personal mastery is also based on how you have come to define and understand your own reality - what it is you believe about your life right now, about yourself and about others. Personal mastery is central to how you think and what you believe and the level to which you are ...
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It is very important to mental health to be in touch with and connected to your feelings. Too many people are not successful in actually feeling what they feel. Why? Because they are too busy trying to escape or distract themselves from what they feel. Not all feelings are painful. But, feelings that are repressed, ignored, not felt or connected to, do become cumbersome, painful, and continue to grow in their negative perception and experience. 3 Negative Effects of Blocked Emotions 1. Heightened Anxiety or Stress 2. A Victim Mindset 3. Belief that Nothing Can Change Heightened Anxiety or Stress When you aren't aware of what you are feeling a natural result is to experience increased ...
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Codependence is defined in many different ways. As a Life Coach I have many clients who are dealing with facets and aspects of either their own codependence or the codependence of their partners or a shared codependence. What is a central fact when it comes to codependence is that it is an unhealthy and out-of-balance style of relating. It offers, certainly long-term, if not short-term as well, much more pain and frustration than it offers healthy love or a peaceful co-existence. The first step in freeing yourself from codependent relating is to admit you are codependent. The second step is to make an active choice to change - change yourself - not someone else. Thirdly, many people find ...
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Evolutionary enlightenment unfolds to the authentic seeker on both an individual level and from the perspective of one's inter-connectedness to the macrocosm of humanity. It begins with a desire and/or need to create positive healthy change in your own life. It begins with peeling back layers of protection, vulnerability, pain, past wounds and opening to seeking a conscious awareness of all you need to learn in order to continue to heal, recover, become more authentic. It involves wanting to begin or continue your own life-journey of personal growth and self improvement. Enlightenment isn't just that wondrous spiritual experience of transcending so much that constrains us in everyday life. ...
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