Making Successful Relationships Work

Relationships can be down, right messy at times, don't you agree? After all, as human beings created by God, we all have an innate desire, already programmed into our DNA for social interaction with other human beings. From your family relationships, to your many hopeful successful relationships.

We all need and desire successful relationships, but what do you do, and what is your smart goals plan, when you find yourself or your once happy marriage on the losing end of a relationship that may be ending in dismal failures?

5 Key Points For Making Relationships Work

Pray

About me, I am a Christian believer in the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior, and firmly believe, that apart from God in your life, you are unable to live your life to it's fullest God given potential. God is the relationship building business, and wants noting more than to have successful relationships with all of God's people, including you...

After all, if everything else you've tried in your relationship building hasn't worked as you had planned, you have everything else by inviting God into your life. Pray to God, and ask Him to help you in this area. It doesn't matter if you don't know exactly how to meditate to God, God knows your heart.

As 1 Samuel 16:7 states; But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart." If you ever wanted to know the age old secret how to be happy and how to succeed in life, put God first in your life...

Examine Your Own Heart and Motives

Whether you are single, soon to be married or you are already married, you will face difficulties in your relationships, this is a given. And for every argument or disagreement, there are always more than one side to every issue or disagreement. The first step to conflict resolution is to do a careful self examination of your own heart's desire and motives.

How much are you contributing towards ill feelings of well being in your fractured relationships. Make a concrete list of things you are directly responsible for, and take the initiative and proactive stance in identifying areas of change you need to do now. Identifying areas you need to improve upon, reflects genuine character development on your part.

Be Willing to Forgive Others and Ask Forgiveness From Others

The graveyard is way too full of people who died with broken dreams, aspirations, broken hearts and relationships. Do you know it actually takes more energy and effort to remain in an angry and hatred state of mind, than it is to show kindness and unconditional love towards others?

People say the hardest two words to say are; I'm sorry... Yet forgiveness is the glue that keeps a relationship together.

Forgiveness plays a vital role in your stress management. If God almighty of the universe can offer you unconditional forgiveness for your sins in life, how much more should you, in the same spirit of love and compassion offer unconditional forgiveness to people who've wronged you in life?

Life is way too short, death and dying is real, and you may never get the opportunity again to speak to the person or persons you need to speak with before it's too late.

Attack The Problem, Not the Person

Be careful in your communication, just as you would not say something you would regret on your job in standard business communication, or in business writing, so too should you be ever so careful in not attacking the person, but instead of the problem. Be ever so careful of the words you use, because it's a bit too late to retract the message once you've hit the send button.

Take Responsibility For You Actions

In a world cultural that evades personal responsibility and ownership for anything done, you must rise up and demonstrate true leadership development by taking full responsibility for your words and actions you've caused harm to others. Not only is this the correct thing to do, it is the biblically correct thing to do. I don't care what you've done or said; it's up to you to correct your wrong doings by confronting the person or persons you've wronged directly. Pray and ask God to help you in overcoming your fear. Confronting the person or persons will cause real spiritual growth in your own life.

Think about this for a moment. You only go around once in life, and then you and everyone else on planet earth will die. When they lower you body into the grave, all that will really matter to anyone of importance to you, besides your eternal salvation, life after death, is the legacy you've left behind for people in your life most important to you.

When it's all said and done, it's not about your fat bank account, or the type of car you drive, or the fancy dancy home you live in, or the yacht or vacation home in the Bahamas, the number of degrees you earned, the title or position you had, or the social circles you entertained in trying to keep up with the Jones.

No what matters, is how, and to what extend you impacted others' lives that you came in contact with in your relationships that you had. What will your relationships say about you? How much God in your lives, did others see in your life? Did you build others up and encourage them, or did you tear people down out of jealousy and/or selfish and greed self serving interests?

It's not too late to change, you just need to develop the right positive attitude, have the self discipline, and the self motivation to improve in areas you need to improve in. Remember, the biggest room in the entire world, is the room called self improvement. And self improvement is something you, nor the rest of the world's inhabitants can ever receive enough of in life.

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